When those needs weren’t consistently met, your developing brain adapted.
It created emotional shortcuts and coping strategies to feel connected—no matter the cost.
Those initial adaptations? You’re still using them.
Even now, your brain equates familiar with safe.
So if chaos, inconsistency, or emotional distance were part of love growing up… they’ll feel like home.
🧠 That’s why healthy love can feel uncomfortable—and why dysfunctional patterns feel strangely magnetic.
The good news? Your brain can be rewired.
You just need the right process to unlock it.